It’s the goal of every parent to let their kids feel good and confident about themselves for good reasons. The confident kids are more able to tackle the dynamic world and experiences less anxiety to improved performance leading to healthier relationships. Kids with strong mental health are more productive in every phase of life. And are more consistent to achieve and stay engaged in their tasks.
Most of the parents used to spend hours and hours building their child’s mental health. They engage in several strategies that could help them to believe that their child’s confidence will be increased. But some of those strategies can fail, causing a malicious cycle that starts confusing with their child’s personalities and struggles them to feel about who they are. In finding their actual personality they might often get themselves involved in drug addictions as well. Many start smoking to cope with this pressure and many used to start taking marijuana for anxiety.
Here we have a few biggest parenting mistakes that destroy the kid’s mental strength:
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1- Being Overprotective And Preventing Them From Mistakes
Keeping a child insulated in a protected bubble can save you from many problems and anxiety. But keeping them insulated from the life challenges hurdles their development. Your overprotectiveness will not lead your child to take initiatives. Consider yourself as a guide, not as a protector who is staying on ahead all the time of a child. Let your children experience new phases of life and face the hurdles life throws in their path. Allow them to take the charge.
It often happens that children might fail or rejected. Many people used to rush in to save their children before they fall into their lives. Preventing their ability to manage such rejection and hurdles their learning processes effects that how to bounce back and respond to such situations. Each of the mistakes is a learning opportunity for them and acts as the greatest teacher. So, every opportunity leads to better strength to do better for the next time.
2- Expecting Perfection, And Punishing Rather Than Disciplining
Expecting perfection is a good thing but extra expectations might cause its consequences. Because of the very high expectations children might feel that they are unable to achieve them or measure up. It’s good to give clear instructions about the long-term before time and set hurdles in between to build their skills likewise. If you will for the perfection in between while achieving the goals it might fail them even to achieve it. There is a clear difference in the indication between discipline and punishment. By teaching your child discipline they will think it differently, like if they will commit any mistake. A disciplined child will say “I made a bad choice” but if you will punish him, he will say “I am a bad person”. In short, discipline gives confidence and courage to a person that makes them smarter in making healthier choices but punishments will lead them towards incapability of doing anything better.
3- Letting Them Escape From Responsibilities
Many of the parents think, that making their children responsible will add to their stress and weigh them more. But in actual assigning appropriate responsibilities to the kids builds a sense of accomplishment and responsibility in them. So, whether you tell your child to help with the laundry or cleaning of a table after eating, such responsibilities are opportunities for the children to see themselves as capable and competent to deal with regular activities themselves.
Conclusion
Guiding children strategically build your child in the right direction. Even it builds the decision-making capacity of your child. But any small but continuous mistakes can cause drastic effects on your child’s mental well-being.
Stay concerned while developing your child, but in a moderate manner!